HEAR WHAT OPRAH WINFREY HAD TO SAY ABOUT MEN!

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

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If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is Don't stay because you think "it will get better" You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything.* He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior.* Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... Even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...Compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships... There is nothing cute about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship you should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... Look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.* Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful: Dr. Phill

You should know that:

You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one. They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one. Ladies take care of your own hearts. Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...

All in all what do you think, free free to drop comment.............
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Are you holding something that you need to let go?

Life is a complex process at all of us, each individual is formed by experience and learning processes.

We wont ever understand others and ourselves completely, there is too much we carry inside. Most of the time we learn through events in our life that shook us or that caused us pain and we don’t ever want to experience that again and we think we know how to avoid that because we learned out of “our mistakes”.

But sometimes our behaviour is formed by those bad experience that we confer them to a positive situation. For example if our heart got broken or we got disappointed so many times we might confer that to a person that might have serious and sincere intentions with us.

So we put that person in the same box where our bad experience linger. So bad or difficult experience happen in life and they make us learn, develope and grow.

But sometimes we have to let go of the bad experience because we might drown the positive ones in.

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Feelings follow behaviour

Our daily life is influenced by many factors we can not explain sometimes. They all influence each other and it all starts inside of each individual.

Our mindset is complex and what we carry inside is a mixture of heart and mind, irrationality and rationality, experiences, mood and never the less sanity. A lot of aspects form the way we behave.

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The things we carry outside meaning the way we behave give people an idea of how we feel inside, even though we try to hide it a lot of times, but it is also up to us to control our behaviour towards people, we might be in a bad mood and still tell ourselves to smile or there might have been bad experience and we tell ourselves not to take it out on other people that doesn’t have anything to do with those experience, because if we try to behave in a positive way we will carry that outside, if we carry that positivity outside we will get positive reactions and those reactions and our own positive attitude will make us feel good, because not only will behaviour follow what you feel inside, the way we feel can also follow our behaviour.

It is better to practice a little than talk a lot

A best practice is a method or technique that has consistently shown results superior to those achieved with other means, and that is used as a benchmark. In addition, a "best" practice can evolve to become better as improvements are discovered. Best practice is considered by some as a business buzzword, used to describe the process of developing and following a standard way of doing things that multiple organisations can use.

When you are able to talk the talk, as well as walk the walk – simultaneously, you will find quality in anything you put your efforts in to. “Practice makes perfect” and “actions speak louder than words” so why stand around, some of the great artists of the 20th century have shared their thoughts on these questions.

Practicing is an art, not a skill. A skill is something you can be taught in a certain number of lessons, while an art is something you learn slowly and gradually over your entire life. Whether you are a sculptor, a painter, a ballerina or a trombonist, you have to apply discipline in order to progress. The art of practicing is something you adhere to for a very, very long time, and you must master it to become a great performer or a great person.

Practice is the key to becoming a great player. We've all seen and heard of colleagues or students who were born with amazing potential and talent, and yet because they didn't have the right psychological make-up they failed in their quest to become professionals. They hadn't mastered the art of practicing. All in all it is better to practice a little than talk a lot.

Practice! Practice! Practice makes you perfect.  

Wedding cake in the middle of the road



If we think of a wedding cake in the middle of the road, we must ask ourselves what is the sense behind it and what is it doing exactly in the middle? But if we think of a wedding cake and a road as a metaphor, it makes sense.

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The wedding cake stands for love, passion, friendship, taking care and all those feeling people feel in a good working relationship. The road stands for the relationship itself, the ups and downs, the good and bad times, joy and sorrow the laughter and crying, those situations we pass through, the road we all have to go and overcome all the burdens. For all the negative that might appear on the road( the relationship) the wedding cake (love) must always be the center of it.

It has to be the point that is reachable in the same way from every corner of the road and should not get out of sight. For the negative and positive, what is most important is that there is a way to get back to the middle of the road. If we loose the balance in a relationship and the love is out of sight, meaning the wedding cake is not in the middle of the road anymore, we will end up in the middle of nowhere instead of the middle of the road.

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